Where are you from?
-United States of Turmoil & Distress
What kind of books do you read?
-Mostly self-help and information reads. I also enjoy comic books - Global Frequency is my new favorite series [;
what programmes do you watch?
-I try not to watch TV, but I do watch a bunch of terrible B horror flicks just for shits and giggles.
Do you like watching your videos back?
-Well, this is a tricky question to answer. Seeing as I am a new dominatrixx, there are many aspects of my job that I have not completely fulfilled yet.
I've only been at my profession for about 5 months now, so unfortunately I do not have clips out there yet. I'm sort of taking my sweet time with this aspect of the game.
I can tell you, however, that I had my first three-way a few weekends ago (finally!) and I do have some of it filmed. It's phenomenal. I personally believe I could win a amateur porn contest with it, but I'm unfamiliar with editing so I sent one of the videos to a submissive to edit. I have not received the clips back yet, but I look forward to using some of them in the future.
The hardest thing with this aspect is the fact that I'm not sure what sells; I'm not sure if my fans would want to see me performing sexual acts, or just dominating. I certainly need to do more research on this topic, which can be tricky in itself!
Does it take you long to film the perfect clip?
-Since I've only done one clip session so far, I'm not quite sure. I can't imagine that when I begin filming clips on the regular that it will take me terribly long.The video I spoke of in the last question only took one take, but I was not the one filming.
How often do you exercise?
-I knew this question was coming ;P I am a cybergrrl for http://flirt4free.com , and I'm in the big booty section....so I try to make sure to work my backside out about 2-3 times a week.
However, I was a competitive swimmer for 13 years....and I keep a pretty good shape without cardio, seeing as my body was developed by water and 6 days per week of hard work/training during those godawful years in puberty...ha!
Away from being a domme what do you do in your spare time?
-If you ask me what I do for a living, I will tell you that I am a camgirl and a dominatrixx. However, I am also a computer science engineering student, and that takes up a huge amount of my time. It's certainly refreshing having the back and forth of aesthetic and intelligent work.
You seem to take so easily... is this the same in your vanilla life?
-I am very easy going and open to many different philosophies and ideas, in both my vanilla and fetish lives.
If you're asking if I'm a goth in my vanilla life, the answer is 'most definitely'. It's funny though, because sexually, I'm closed at the legs in real life. I'm only ever having sex with you if I'm head over heels in love with you. I'm very afraid of STD's,
I'm extremely loyal when in a relationship, and I typically enjoy only having one partner. But I do like to think I'm one hell of a digital slut [=
what fetishes are you into and what don't you like?
-This is another hard question to answer, because seeing as I truly am so new at this - there are so many aspects of the fetish world that I have not tried or played around with yet. I love findom. I love the mind games, the dominance vs. submission. I'm into mental desperation from my submissives. I have a surprising jeans cum fetish, I love exhibitionism and many of the aspects that come hand in hand with being a domme. I'm very into toys..the only thing that I really don't like very much is scat or defacation of any kind. Diapers aren't high on my list either.
As a domme what's the one thing your most proud of?
-I feel extremely proud of how far I've come with my sexuality. I feel more whole, more alive, practicing my sexuality in this way everyday.
You have a way with words to captivate male minds, have you always been like this?
-Yes ;D I'm also very vocal in the bedroom and on camera [;
Who is your favorite fetish model?
-Mistress Salem //blushes
Do you have submissive girls around you? Or just guys
-I am heavily bisexual, so I would love to have submissive women around me! But no, not at the moment...
When did you realise you wanted to be a domme?
-Now, this is a funny story. I guess it ties in with the next question also.
I used to live in a high rise apartment in a big city, and I lived (physically) below a dominatrixx for 2 years of my life. I wasn't as privvy to sexual subcultures at the time, so I didn't really understand what was going on in the apartment above me. Now it all clicks together. This experience had a huge impact on me.
How did you start your work in this industry?
-This past January, I was looking for a job and really was not having much luck.The day that Trump was pulled into office, said "fuck it, I'm being a camgirl" - which turned into me becoming a dominatrixx
What's your best domme experience ?
-The very first time I came across a sub who immediately made himself of service and just started buying me things off my wishlist out of nowhere, showing me uttermost dedication and worship.
What's your worst domme experience?
-I was scammed out of $700 bucks one time. I get scam offers all the time, I hate it.
What's your oppinion about industry?
-Well, I guess I have a funny answer for this question also. I like to consider myself a very different type of dominatrixx. I say this because first of all, I am empathically sadistic, rather than straight up sadistic and greedy. I don't think that type of behavior really truly does any good, although I know it works well for some dommes. I see many dommes that I don't believe are multi-dimensional, or who don't seem to be very personable to their clients; and even if it works for them - I tend to see that as a kind of failure. Be yourself. Don't solely try to fit into a role. Be different, have an edge. Also, be empathic. I find that it works wonders and subs end up appreciating you & listening to you much more.
Who do you like to work with?
-I saw a poll on Twitter recently from a submissive (not one I knew) that said something along the lines of, "Would you rather have a money slave, or a loyal slave?" I thought this was ridiculous. In working with various submissives, they are of full understanding that this is my job. This is my career, this is my current profession. I will not work with you and consider you one of my slaves/submissives unless you are a LOYAL MONEY SLAVE. If you are just loyal, how do I make money? No one expects to go to work to not get paid. If you are just a money slave but not very loyal, how could I consider you one of my submissives? You aren't, by a long shot. I like working with subs that have done the internal work to figure out their deepest kinks and desires; or at least are open to discovering them. How am I supposed to work with you if you have no idea what you want out of this?
I like working with subs who truly, naturally are & know how to be submissive. Let me tell you, there are some bad subs out there! And by saying this, I don't only mean subs who aren't willing to do the work to figure out what they're truly into. These people are alpha males who will not give up that alpha complex. These subs don't understand that this is my job and that I require payment. It's a hard industry - lots of tricks in hidden nooks and crannies to be able to identify and look out for. If that makes any sense at all...!
What's your plans further with your brand?
-I would like to turn my brand into Xana Lilith LLC =]
Where can subs book cam sessions and what type do you offer?
-Good question! There are a couple of ways to do this. As I believe I mentioned previously, I work as a cybergrrl on http://flirt4free.com , specifically & directly: http://xana-lilith.flirt4free.com
However, I've noticed that findom is not such a popular fetish on the site. I've played around with the idea of adding additional sites to my repitoire, however I haven't quite done the research and picked the right ones yet. This needs more thought. Therefore, for now - I also do skype sessions. The only factor about this, however - is that I require upfront initial payment via http://cash.me/$XanaLilith , the Circle pay app, or via my Deliverycode, even if I am doing a rinsing/milking session. I have been scammed into giving free shows before, and if you cannot pay me the whole amount beforehand, or at least 40% of finances beforehand, I shall not trust that you have any money at all. Scamming is a big thing to look out for as a dominatrixx. I have also been looking into Skype add-on networks such as Skyprivate, but as I said...I'm not quite here yet. F4F and Squarecash before Skype for now.
Men seem to fall at your feet so easy? How do you do it?
-I am a siren, and I am a succubus [= I am also a very different type of dominatrixx, which I believe is refreshing to my clientele. Additionally, I'm one hell of a dirty talker [;
So to become your best fan do subs get any rewards? Or is you talking enough?
-Of course subs are rewarded. I might send surprise photosets for their eyes only, or I might post a surprise humiliation act if that's your thing.I like to advertise when I get something from a sub in the mail, so they feel appreciated, and I tend to watch the amount of attention I'm giving to people who are actually
paying me out of loyalty and spending the most money on me. Me talking is of course enough, but I tend to like to go the extra mile.
What type of subs do you prefer?
-loyal money subs! xana-lilith [siren*]
Have you had any fit subs?
-I have about 2-3 fit subs right now who I believe are loyal, and who understand the act of submission. I am new at this, and accepting new subs as we speak [=
Do you have any tips for newbie subs trying it out?
-Tell your dominatrixx that you're a newbie. Be honest, be upfront, and pay upfront if she asks you to. As I've mentioned a few times in the interview, scamming is so prevalent here, so you need to earn your domme's trust. Tell her honest true feelings about how you're feeling about this - that's what this is. Raw, honest sexual therapy - to a certain extent. It's your job to figure out your deepest kinks and desires. It's my job to exploit them, or to work with them and make them a reality - depending on what exactly you're most interested in.
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